Some Things I Wont Do Again

"Happiness is not a goal; it's the by-product of a life well lived."
?Eleanor Roosevelt

Nosotros all make mistakes in life, but the people who larn and grow from their mistakes are the happiest ones in the end.

And that'south precisely what we talk over in today's video…

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10 Things Happy People Never Do Once again (video transcript):

Life is modify.  Everyone has gone through something that has changed them in a way that prevents them from existence the same person they once were.  Only every bit my grandmother always told me, this is a very expert matter.  As long every bit you continue learning and stretching yourself, change is growth.

Sometimes you take to take the fact that things will never go dorsum to how they used to be, and that this catastrophe is really a new commencement.

Over the past decade, Angel and I have helped thousands of coaching clients and web log subscribers (subscribe here) become their lives back on rails.  In the process of doing so, we accept discovered that the people who have the greatest potential for renewed happiness seem to take specific "aha" moments that totally change the trajectory of their thoughts and behaviors.  Once this "aha" light bulb goes off in their minds, they awaken to a new reality that motivates them to never get back to their sometime style of doing things.

In brusque, these "aha" moments mean they got it.  Any it was they were doing or thinking that was holding them back, is now a lesson learned and a thing of the past.

Although life has many important lessons to teach us, Angel and I have observed and studied ten specific gateways – or "aha'due south" – of learning that the happiest people go through, never to return again.

Happy people never once more…

1. Try to be anyone other than who they are. – In everything you do, you must ask, "Why am I doing this?  Is this helping me grow?  Does it represent who I am and who I hope to go?"  Truth be told, trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Exist yourself.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no i else.  Exist the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you lot – on your terms.
2. Attempt to be everything to everyone. – It'due south impossible to please everyone, and you shouldn't effort.  Period.  Some people will constantly tell yous what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did correct.  Don't exist 1 of them, and don't pay attention to them.  Once y'all get that it truly is impossible to please anybody, you brainstorm to live more than purposefully, trying to please but the right people. (Read The Mastery of Dearest.)
3. Endeavor to change other people. – You lot can't change people; they can only change themselves.  Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.  If in that location's a specific beliefs someone you lot love has that you're hoping disappears over time, it probably won't.  If y'all really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table and so this person knows what you need them to exercise.  When you realize that you can't forcefulness people into doing something, even if information technology's for their own skillful, y'all give them freedom and allow them to feel the consequences.  And in doing and then, you find your own freedom also.
4. Make the same verbal mistake. – You lot have to respect the wise words of Albert Einstein: "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."  And then whether you're in a business state of affairs that isn't making any progress, or a broken relationship that has proven to exist unhealthy, y'all should never stride back into same situation, expecting different results, without something specific and measurable actually beingness different.
5. Choose short-term pleasure over long-term happiness. – Y'all have to do exactly the opposite – sacrifice brusque-term pleasure for long-term happiness.  Happy people are more interested in something existence effective than they are in something being easy.  While everyone else is looking for the quickest shortcut, they look for the course of activeness which will produce the best results over the long term.  Living out this principle every unmarried 24-hour interval is one of the most fundamental differences between people who live truly rewarding lives and those who don't, both personally and professionally. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the "Goals and Success" affiliate of ane,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Exercise Differently.)
6. Expect people and situations to be perfect. – It'due south natural for u.s. to be fatigued to situations and people that appear to be amazing.  We love excellence and should e'er be looking for information technology.  We should pursue people who are great at what they do, coworkers and employees who are high performers, mates who are extraordinary people, friends who have stellar character, and business partners who excel.  Only never lose sight of this uncomplicated truth: Nothing and nobody is perfect.  Period.  No ane and no thing is flawless, and if they appear that way, and you look them to always be that manner, you will only disappoint yourself.
7. Let one dark cloud comprehend the entire sky. – Have a deep breath.  It'south merely a bad moment, or a bad day, not a bad life.  Everyone has troubles.  Anybody makes mistakes.  The hole-and-corner of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles.  For happy people, no one event is e'er the whole story.  They remind themselves of this fact each and every day.
8. Neglect responsibility for managing their life situation. – Simply put, happy people don't arraign others or defer their authority.  They take consummate responsibility for their actions and outcomes, or their lack thereof.  They know it'southward upwards to them, and but them, to assess and manage their circumstances.  Laziness just won't cut it.  No matter how practiced something looks at first, it is merely past owning your situation and taking a deeper, diligent, and sincere wait that you will find out what you truly demand to know: the truth that you lot owe to yourself.
9. Classify themselves as a victim. – Yeah, it's unfortunate that sometimes bad things happen to the best of people.  Life can exist unfair, unkind and downright unjust.  Nevertheless, being stuck in a victim mentality does not nurture your ability to move onward and upwardly.  You've got to stand support and take positive steps to heal and abound.  One of the biggest differences between truly happy people and others is that in every difficult life situation – relationships, career, business, money, etc. – happy people always enquire themselves, "What part am I playing in this situation?  And what are my options from this betoken forward?" (Read Second Firsts.)
10. Permit external achievements to overshadow inner happiness. – We are happy and fulfilled more often than not by who we are on the inside.  Scientific research has validated this time and fourth dimension once again.  And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.  The problem is that when we think we take to "look" for things in life like beloved, meaning and inspiration, the "looking" implies that these things are somehow hiding behind some bushes somewhere, just waiting to be discovered.  Then we start looking for these things in places that atomic number 82 us further and further outside ourselves, which is not where our happiness lives.

Afterthoughts

If y'all're struggling with any of the points above, know that yous are non lone.  We all struggle with these things at times.  Sometimes we repeat mistakes many times before we are able to say "aha" and finally get information technology.  Just do your best to look for the patterns that are holding y'all dorsum, and and then gradually eliminate them.  That's really it…

Your task, in life, in relationships, and in business concern, is to observe what is Not working for you, and never go back to doing these things.

Your plough…

What's one "aha" moment that has helped you observe more happiness?  What else has been pain your happiness that you need to never exercise again?   Leave a comment below and let us know.

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